Sunday, October 14, 2018

Musings from the Laundry Room


The laundry room, in a children's blog, really? Well, this musing is for everyone, children's workers included. And it is free, so it fits the frugal part of this blog.

Most hometown papers has several columns written by local contributors. Ours has one called, "The View from Hickory Hill" written by a woman whose home is located on, well, Hickory Hill. She shares her viewpoint on all manner of things from class reunions to haying to hand-me-downs.

One day this past summer, while we were in North Carolina on a medical leave of absence, I was inspired to write my own column...in the laundry room. So I thought, if Miss Hickory Hill can write a column about the view from her home, I can write one about my view from the laundry room. I have named it, "Musings from the Laundry Room," just in case I ever get inspired to write another post while in the laundry room. 

Our own laundry room was right in our apartment in Chapel Hill, complete with a new washer and dryer and wire shelving on an entire wall.  One day while I was doing the wash, I pulled the bottle of Purex laundry detergent from that shelving and a memory came flooding over me. I had gone to the Walmart in Chapel hill by myself to buy that bottle of detergent because I knew I could get the size and brand I wanted there. I remembered the heat. I remembered clearly where I had parked the car. I remembered the traffic when I left the parking lot. But most of all, I remembered it was well over a month ago that all of that happened. We still had a lot of time in Chapel Hill. Leaving to go home was not even on my mind that day at WalMart. 

As I set about washing towels for perhaps the last time in Chapel Hill, and as I poured out the depleting liquid into the lid, this wave of emotion just came over me - like when you are at the Jersey shore in the ocean, and you don't see the wave coming up on you until it is too late. It came out of nowhere and its dark shadows spread over my spirit that had been so gay a moment before. Our time in North Carolina was almost gone. We were leaving in six days. 

As I stood there with the bottle in hand, I felt how we cannot hang onto anything, I felt the fleetingness of life and moments. I felt my total lack of control over any of it, try as I had to hold onto all the moments and seize the day. The day was still coming that we would have to leave. A sadness hung over my spirit. And then I was comforted by God. Strengthened by the knowledge that come what may, God will never be moving or leaving or changing or depleting. He is a surety, a stability - one I can anchor my soul in. The rock that is higher than I am. He is the ONLY sure thing in my life, or any of our lives. But what a surety he is. And my soul was opened by the warmth of his love and presence and the knowledge of who he is that will always be by my side.

No wonder that David wrote in the Psalm 62: 
Hear my cry, O God
listen to my prayer;
from the end of the earth I call to you when my heart is faint.
Lead me to the rock that is higher than I,
for you have been my refuge,
a strong tower...

I don't know what life has brought your way, but I do know that none of us can control it. I hope that you have found the rock that is higher than you are and are anchored in Him so that come what may, you have anchored your soul in God. When those moments come - and you never know when they will - remember the one who never changes and pray with David, "lead me to the rock that is higher than I." Thank God that because of who he is, he IS higher than us, he IS a rock and he can ALWAYS answer that prayer. 




Sunday, October 7, 2018

I Quit!

National D-Day Memorial in Bedford, VA

OK, be honest, how many of you have a letter of resignation hidden away in a drawer somewhere? I have been in the ministry long enough to know that almost every pastor out there (lead, senior, youth, kidmin or otherwise) has seriously wanted to quit at least once in their lifetime (for some it might be every Monday morning).

Every once in awhile I come across this file in my documents entitled, "Letter of Resignation." Hmmm, what's that I wondered the first time I saw it. So I opened it. It was a letter I had hurriedly typed to our governing board. It was only a rough draft, but there it was, typos and all. "Wow." I thought as I read it, "Did I really feel like that?" And so I decided to keep it, just to remind myself when I get down, that I have been down before, and kept on.

Maybe we should write letters of non-resignation when we are feeling solid in our ministries. That might be a better thing to look at the next time we want to throw in the towel.

It happened again last weekend, I just did not think I could keep on. Children's ministry can be a lonely place. You feel like everyone cares about the adult ministries, and that no one realizes you are pouring yourself out for kids. In our case, only a few kids. So maybe they sound like David's older brother at the battlefront who said to David, "Who is watching those FEW sheep you are supposed to be watching." I can almost hear them, "Get back there with those sheep and don't come out and bother us again!"

Well last weekend I shared with a fellow kidmin worker, and she gave me some great help. First she talked me off the ledge. Secondly, she shared a video link to a video called, Aim Lower. I wish I still had her letter, but I do have the video to share with you.


Aim Lower from Joan Eppehimer on Vimeo.

If our work were easy, we probably would not be making any inroads. Ministry invades the enemy's territory so of course it is going to be difficult, especially when you are engaging in battle for children. They have their whole lives ahead of them. If you can reach a child when they are young think of all the years they have ahead of them. The Bible gives plenty of illustrations of us fighting the good fight and soldiering as Christians. I just need to be reminded of it when I want to quit.

So when you are feeling like no one else truly cares about the children's ministry, when you feel like you have not accomplished anything, when you feel discouraged...take heart and press on and keep aiming lower...at the children.

My thanks to Kate over at Jesus Without Language for her words of encouragement and sharing this video.

Sunday, September 16, 2018

To Have Children's Church, or Not To


Hamlet's famous line, "To be, or not to be:" rings through the ages. As a children's director in a small church, one of my biggest questions is, "To have children's church, or not to: that is the question: Whether 'tis nobler to make workers suffer the slings and arrows of a work force already stretched thin, or to take up arms against the congregation and subjugate them to noisy children in the service." OK, I confess, that is a totally wrong view of ministry to children for either side of the argument, but it was fun to write.

Monday, July 16, 2018

Pentecost DIY Pins


This was a fun, simple craft for the kids to make for Pentecost Sunday and yet it had a big impact. After a lesson about Pentecost, we made these lapel pins from craft foam.


I made some cardstock templates. The older kids helped trace. Adult helpers cut. Younger kids peeled the sticky back off of the fun foam and placed the yellow flame on the red ones. Some pins had 2 flames, and some 3.

Monday, July 2, 2018

Keeping God at the Center


Keeping God Central from Joan Eppehimer on Vimeo.
Years ago we had homemade tables in our church. Someone had screwed threaded steel pipes into flanges which were screwed onto 4 x 8 pieces of plywood. The church fellowship hall was in the basement of our parsonage and my husband and I were sometimes tasked with unscrewing the pipe legs so the tables could be stored. One day we attempted to remove a pipe and it would not budge. I decided we needed some more muscle and found our neighbor, who also could not budge it. But he had this wonderful invention called a pipe wrench. In seconds the pipe was out. He told me sometimes you just need the right tool. This is a lesson about tools for keeping God central in one's life.

Monday, June 4, 2018

Repurposing In KidMin - Doors & Windows


I admit it, I am a perfectionist. And I don't always take no for an answer. Sometimes that turns out to be a good thing. Like when we redid our children's area, and I could not stand how the old doors looked in the new area.

Wednesday, May 2, 2018

Tips for Kidmin in the Small Church (link)


Recently I was searching the web for some ideas and help for music in our children's ministry. In the process, I came across this great article about a church that had no children. Zilch...nada...none. And this went on for almost a year, and then low and behold, God began to unfold a small miracle. Now if you are from a church with over 100 in attendance, it is unlikely you would ever find yourself in this position. But if you are from a really small church, you might.

I am linking to this article because
#1 It was very encouraging.
#2 It also had some great advice on how to get ready for a children's ministry.
#3 No one thought it was going to rain when Noah built the ark either, but it did. And if the children come, you want to have your ark ready, err, I mean your children's ministry.

So read this and be encouraged: 9 Pieces of Advice for Starting a New Children's Ministry.